— Veronica Roth, Divergent (via observando)
— Hal Stratus
I can’t wait for more adventures with you.
I’m actually very surprised that a year later, the result has remained consistent, with only small changes in percentage numbers.
Having said that, I still believe the INFJ personality profile describes me incredibly well. I’m not sure if I’m really as nurturing or as caring as the profile dictates… many friends do turn to me in times of need, but I don’t think I actually like the role of the Counsellor, or Protector. It’s tiresome and draining, especially during period when my own demons are not within their chains.
I suspect many people would call me an extrovert, as I’m chatty and tend to be quite honest/open. However, rightly or wrongly, I rarely place my heart on the line, confide with emotion about personal issues - even with Mantis and childhood friends - and cling to parts which I feel most define myself fearfully tight to my chest. I struggle to truly open up, and do not seem even physically capable of crying or appearing weak in front of others. I used to believe this was a strength, but am increasingly recognising it as a handicap. Despite strong appearances, I take criticisms very personally and can’t deal with even small rejections if they concern what matters most.
Neither a follower or a leader, INFJs tend to individualistic and I like to think of myself the same. Not to be confused with being unique, individualistic simply means to strive to be who one is, whether that be weird or completely ordinary.
I am generally amiable, make friends pretty easily and tend to fit in most social situations (at least on the surface). However, I do arrogantly believe I can see through people past their ‘outer personalities’ and the friends I hold most dear largely remain ones I’ve known since childhood. They all have their own flaws, however each have shown great loyalty and care through the years as well as being generally pretty decent human beings.
I hate confrontations, and abhor conflict. I scored the lowest percentage in the red spectrum within the our 40-person team in the company SDI Test, a score which reduced further still when in ‘conflict situations’. I definitely seek to withdraw communications than facing problems head-on. Running away and repression are invaluable tools I’ve mastered as a teen. This, again, has become a weakness in the face of my family’s predicament right now.
… Or perhaps the Protecting profile fits perfectly. What I would give to love certain people less intensely and as unconditionally as I do… I daresay clean rationality would be more helpful for everyone involved, and certainly less heartache for myself. The obvious backdrop of family aside, I cannot stand watching good people being taken advantage of. Even friends can be dismissively selfish. It rattles my chest no end to see loved ones being taken advantage of, even if they tell me later (after I vent) that they don’t care or mind.
Rambling now… At the end of the day, as my previous post, all this personality categorization should be taken with a pinch of salt. We read what we want to be, what we think or hope we are. We are different, and we are the same. People change over time, I certainly wasn’t like any of this as a child. Whilst most people loathe being pigeon-holed, we actively seek to define ourselves by some way or another, via words we like the sound of. I suppose that’s all I can about this Meyer Briggs profile: it resounds with my projection of myself.
Tumblr does this too.
A balance of giving your all to help and holding back to retain some amount of self-preservation.
Sometimes you wonder if that’s what being in management is 80% about.
Big words, long presentations. Few actions and no result.